It’s no secret that raising children today is a hard job. With all of the influences they have in their lives, keeping them on the right path is never easy.
One area that will never be “out of style” when it comes to raising good kids is teaching them manners. Children who are taught manners at a young age, grow up to be kinder, gentler and more considerate of others than those who don’t.
The easiest way to begin teaching your children good manners is to lead by example. Say “please” and “thank you,” don’t interrupt others when they are speaking and practicing good table manners are the easiest manners to teach so start with these. Table manners are especially important – not only for meals at home but for meals out, as well. Children have a hard enough time remembering how to behave at home let alone how to behave in a public place like a restaurant, for example. Keeping the rules the same across the board saves any problems from arising.
Other good manners your children can learn:
• Writing thank you notes
• Making get-well cards for sick adults or friends
• Saying hello and goodbye when appropriate
• Sharing with and being kind to others
While teaching and explaining what good manners are, again, the best way for it to sink in for your kids is to lead by example – not by a “do as I say not as I do” approach. Your children watch adults and mimic what they see – especially when it comes to parents.
Create an environment for positive behavior. The environment around your child can influence their behaviour, so you can shape the environment to encourage positive behaviour. This can be as simple as making sure your child’s space has plenty of safe, stimulating things to play with. Also make sure that your child can’t reach things they could break or that might hurt them.
When you follow through on your promises, your child learns to trust and respect you. Your child learns that you won’t let them down when you’ve promised something nice, and your child also learns not to try to change your mind when you’ve explained a consequence. So when you promise to go for a walk after your child picks up their toys, make sure you have your walking shoes handy. If you tell your 3-year-old that they’ll have quiet time if they don’t stop throwing dirt, be prepared to follow through.
Finally, praise their good behavior every time they practice a form of good manners. Giving praise is a wonderful reinforcement for what you’re teaching – let your children know how proud of them you are.